Are you a PRINCESS?
A dear friend of mine’s husband is the most amazing father. Although he coaches both of his sons’ little league teams and is consistently a #1 provider, husband and all-around fantastic guy, it’s the relationship with his young daughter that gets me the most. I love witnessing the affection and adoration he shows for his young and impressionable, but tough and sweet little girl.
“Who’s the most beautiful girl in the world?” He asks as she blushes and looks up at him.
“Emmie-loooo is the most beautiful girl in the world!” He gives her a squeeze. “Next to mommy, of course.” He winks at her and kisses his wife.
She is his little princess.
Does he realize the tremendous impact of his behavior? As this young lady matures, it morphs into what she believes about other male relationships and in how she expects to be treated.
When do we stop thinking we are worthy to be adored, respected and treated like a princess?
“There could never be a more beautiful you
Don’t buy the lies, disguises and hoops they make you jump through
You were made to fill a purpose that only you could do
So there could never be a more beautiful you” –Jonny Diaz
But, maybe you never learned it from your father.
And if we don’t learn these things from our parents, as a youth often times we are influenced by fairy tales. Disney has capitalized on this concept. Just admit it: Who didn’t have dreams of prince charming? Who else also wanted their personality to be so serene that all the animals of the forest would flock to you? Who didn’t want a prince to show up with perfect shoes and to rescue them from evil step-mothers and housework?
On some level we identify with these stories.
My favorite fairy tale was the “Princess and the Pea” by Hans Christian Anderson.
Before I was even a teen, I was into makeup. I spent hours in front of a mirror playing with the color palettes attempting to reproduce looks like the girls in the magazines. I painted my fingers and toes a different color every night. (Yep—CRAY-CRAY!!)
Deep down, with my not-even-necessary training bra and my plain face, I thought people might mistake me for a boy. As I grew into my teens, I believed others wouldn’t see me as beautiful without the powders, liquids and gels. Accompanied by the hours spent feathering my hair and the latest Mary Kay cosmetics, I carried these false beliefs into my high school years.
I tried all the techniques, tricks and tips I had to be what I thought made up “beautiful.”
What I would’ve loved was to be like the “Princess and the Pea.” When the raging storm washed away all the outside trappings and evidence to the eyes that she was royalty, there was another test that would prove she was who she claimed.—Despite the other’s inability to see who she truly was, this test, if passed, would reveal her true identity!
No looks, no make-up, no perfect hair—Just a test! Even if the face and body that God created her with was washed away, this test would reveal her royalty!
I love this because –I am really good at tests!
The thing about fairy tales is–they are not reality.
I am certain the prince doesn’t know how to do his own laundry.
Wild forest animals are NOT that friendly and, seriously—a GLASS SHOE?
That princely carriage turns into a pumpkin and the housework NEVER goes away!
Here’s the TRUTH:
God created you in His image (Genesis 1:27)
God knitted you together in your mother’s womb (Psalm 139:13)
You are fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14)
Embrace the YOU-niqueness of YOU! As Jonny Diaz’s song tells us: There could NEVER be a more beautiful you–
“So turn around
you’re not too far
To back away
be who you are
To change your path go another way
It’s not too late, you can be saved
If you feel depressed with past regrets
The shameful nights hope to forget
Can disappear, they can all be washed away
By the one who’s strong, can right your wrongs
Can rid your fears
dry, all your tears
And change the way you look at this big world
He will take your dark distorted view
And with His light, He will show you truth
And again you’ll see through the eyes of a little girl”
With God as your father, you are adored. There is NOTHING you can do to change how beautiful you are to God.
When you know Jesus as your Savior, you are an heiress into His royal family.
You are always His princess.
No pea required.